You have to get used to hearing “no.”

Why are so many young men choosing porn over the vulnerability, effort, and uncertainty of real human connection?

Research shows that 51% of young men in America have never asked someone out in person. That speaks to more than just fear, it points to a gap in confidence, communication skills, and resilience.

We don't build those muscles without discomfort.We don’t grow without rejection.

Maybe it’s time we introduced “no” training:

·       Ask for help

·       Ask for mentorship

·       Ask for a job

·       Ask someone on a date

…and learn how to absorb the “no” with grace, not shame.

Porn offers a shortcut: dopamine without risk, rejection, or relationship. But the cost of avoiding “no” is that we miss out on the messy, meaningful process of developing courage, connection, and character.

Where are the spaces today where young people, especially men are invited to demonstrate excellence, be vulnerable, and keep showing up?