You have to get used to hearing “no.”
- Jul 5, 2025
- 1 min read
Why are so many young men choosing porn over the vulnerability, effort, and uncertainty of real human connection?
Research shows that 51% of young men in America have never asked someone out in person. That speaks to more than just fear, it points to a gap in confidence, communication skills, and resilience.
We don't build those muscles without discomfort.We don’t grow without rejection.
Maybe it’s time we introduced “no” training:
· Ask for help
· Ask for mentorship
· Ask for a job
· Ask someone on a date
…and learn how to absorb the “no” with grace, not shame.
Porn offers a shortcut: dopamine without risk, rejection, or relationship. But the cost of avoiding “no” is that we miss out on the messy, meaningful process of developing courage, connection, and character.
Where are the spaces today where young people, especially men are invited to demonstrate excellence, be vulnerable, and keep showing up?
Hi Gentleman,
I would like to comment on the unfortunate use of a photo that is a significant piece of American history. The picture that has been used for the porn article should no be use at all. First, the picture does not match the context of the article. Second, the picture is about two people giving the big middle finger to racism in the US back in the 1940’s.
I would like to ask that you change the photo out to something that matches the article. Maybe just a picture of theee Xs.
Here is the history of the picture. From google.
The image is a well-known photograph from around 1943 featuring actress Mae West and former featherweight boxing…